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Set boundaries with family

Establish healthy boundaries with family members who overstep.

the scenario
hardPersonalwith Mom
try to:
  • State your boundary clearly
  • Name the feeling behind the boundary
  • Stay calm when they push back
  • Say what happens if the boundary is crossed
  • Reassure your love for them
rehearse this call in murmur
Before a call: the scenario 'ask boss for time off' with three things to try, while the call connects

How the call starts

In murmur, Mom picks up. This is the first thing you hear.

them

Hey, honey! So glad you called. I was just about to tell you - I signed you up for that thing next weekend.

What to cover

  1. State your boundary clearly
  2. Name the feeling behind the boundary
  3. Stay calm when they push back
  4. Say what happens if the boundary is crossed
  5. Reassure your love for them

Write these down before you dial. Build a script for this call with your own details.

Rehearse it once first

Reading a checklist is the easy part. Saying it to someone who answers back is where calls go wrong. In murmur you make this call out loud, the other side reacts, and afterwards you see which of these goals you hit.

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Rehearse the call before you dial

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