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Handle a friend cancelling

Address repeated cancellations without damaging the friendship.

the scenario
mediumSocialwith Pat
try to:
  • Say how repeated cancellations make you feel
  • Use specific examples without blame
  • Ask what's going on for them
  • Say what you need from the friendship
rehearse this call in murmur
Before a call: the scenario 'ask boss for time off' with three things to try, while the call connects

How the call starts

In murmur, Pat picks up. This is the first thing you hear.

them

Hey, what's going on? I feel like we haven't hung out in forever.

What to cover

  1. Say how repeated cancellations make you feel
  2. Use specific examples without blame
  3. Ask what's going on for them
  4. Say what you need from the friendship

Write these down before you dial. Build a script for this call with your own details.

Rehearse it once first

Reading a checklist is the easy part. Saying it to someone who answers back is where calls go wrong. In murmur you make this call out loud, the other side reacts, and afterwards you see which of these goals you hit.

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Rehearse the call before you dial

murmur is on the App Store, for iPhone.

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