Set a boundary

How the call starts

In murmur, Kai picks up. This is the first thing you hear.

What to cover

1. Say what your boundary is, clearly
2. Name how the situation makes you feel
3. Use 'I need' instead of 'You always'
4. Acknowledge what they might be feeling
5. Make a specific request, not a demand
6. End with what you both need

Write these down before you dial. Build a script for this call with your own details.

Rehearse it once first

Reading a checklist is the easy part. Saying it to someone who answers back is where calls go wrong. In murmur you make this call out loud, the other side reacts, and afterwards you see which of these goals you hit.

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